tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post111937876439899593..comments2023-10-26T04:23:39.504-04:00Comments on Castle in the Clouds: Totally crossing a line.Krista Heiserhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10954380095591232526noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119659069403021592005-06-24T20:24:00.000-04:002005-06-24T20:24:00.000-04:00I had another, psychobabble-ish, thought.Do you th...I had another, psychobabble-ish, thought.<BR/><BR/>Do you think he's putting up with her b/c he gets all the control?He's a better catch than her, so she probably won't leave him like his last two wives. Plus he knows going in he'll be disappointed, no tension or anxiety about it.<BR/><BR/>Also, perhaps he feels so low, having been cheated on by women he loved, that this is all he thinks he deserves?<BR/><BR/>In which case, I wonder if you should stand up to her a little bit. Don't fight his decisions, but don't accept them either--sort of walk between the two. Let him see you value him and think he should be treated with respect and maybe he will start to value himself?<BR/><BR/>The whole thing strikes me as a rebound and perhaps a living metaphor for his emotional wounds.<BR/><BR/>I don't know. Just a thought. <BR/><BR/>My heart goes out to him and you.<BR/><BR/>Another hug<BR/>MMotherhood for the Weakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06813197295291518166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119657299112153812005-06-24T19:54:00.000-04:002005-06-24T19:54:00.000-04:00Hugs! So sorry to hear about the nasty girlfriend....Hugs! So sorry to hear about the nasty girlfriend. Your dad must be really lonely to put up with her.<BR/><BR/>Maybe if you arranged for him to meet someone else?<BR/><BR/>Good luck!<BR/><BR/>Oh and I don't see italics anywhere.<BR/><BR/>MMotherhood for the Weakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06813197295291518166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119560967932742082005-06-23T17:09:00.000-04:002005-06-23T17:09:00.000-04:00I've been struggling through a similar situation (...I've been struggling through a similar situation (only without the alcohol). (((hugs))) It's rough. Just don't let yourself get hammered in the middle. Play Switzerland as much as possible. I tried to talk through things with my Mom (now remarried) and almost had to testify in court against my Dad. Not a good situation.Joely Sue Burkharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17895058332587825648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119446809949865542005-06-22T09:26:00.000-04:002005-06-22T09:26:00.000-04:00Goodness. It sounds like you need to have a heart ...Goodness. <BR/><BR/>It sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with your dad. Not about her, but him. There are much worse things than being alone. <BR/><BR/>Good luck!Eolandehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07184841063739371426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119442991828435642005-06-22T08:23:00.000-04:002005-06-22T08:23:00.000-04:00Be strong, Jedi.:-)Be strong, Jedi.<BR/><BR/>:-)Colinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12893750640492129654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119442753173786952005-06-22T08:19:00.000-04:002005-06-22T08:19:00.000-04:00I just reread that post and realized I left out a ...I just reread that post and realized I left out a number of words. I do the same thing when I'm writing...that's why proofing is so important! <BR/><BR/>Glad you seemed to be able to make heads-n-tails of it. And thanks for all the hugs. <BR/><BR/>The truth is I'm tired of being the mature one in the family. My role is typically that of the peace-keeper but my peace-keeping tendencies have been strained by this woman's manipulations.Krista Heiserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10954380095591232526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3469657.post-1119393506585423552005-06-21T18:38:00.000-04:002005-06-21T18:38:00.000-04:00You're welcome.{huggg}It all comes down to it bein...You're welcome.<BR/><BR/>{huggg}<BR/><BR/>It all comes down to it being your dad's decision. You don't have to like her, live with her, or sleep with her. He does.<BR/><BR/>You also don't have to bend over and let her rip you up, either. <BR/><BR/>{huggg}<BR/><BR/>I'd recommend doing like your SIL. Just walk away. Water off a duck's back and all that jazz. Easier said than done, true, but probably the best thing to do.<BR/><BR/>{huggg}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com